Hypocrites Can Be Found Anywhere and Everywhere

 So....this is going to be like a dear dairy post. I have been in DEI/JEDI work for awhile now. My followers know that it has not always been easy for me, like the stuff around Gina. So recently I had something happen to me. I won't go into too much detail because I my sue on it, but I experienced a clear violation of DEI. In my case it was gender bias. I had my suspensions, but nothing concrete. Then someone that I thought I could trust that labels themselves as a DEI supporter and expert told me that it was gender bias. That the women being interviewed for the position were "too professional" for the job when compared to the males that interviewed. This person should have gone to their HR and reported this as soon as they had heard about it to raise their concerns with how the hiring was handled. When HR got back to me on a different issue also in relation to unprofessionalism in the hiring process I asked this person that had the inside information if they would be willing to talk to HR if I told the HR about it as well, and they said no that them going to HR could jeopardize their career and even the fact that they told me about the bias could jeopardize their career. They were more concerned with what could happen to them for pointing out bias then for actually practicing what they preach. They then tried to down play what they told me had been said by saying it wasn't that bad and that they had experienced worse during their career. At one point they also tried to end the call saying it was too "toxic" for them that I was calling them out for not really supporting DEI when it counted. Fair weather DEI experts is one of the types of people out there making the world worse. This is like one rape victim telling another it's no big deal. If women do not support each other when they know that what is happening is wrong, even if it is done by another woman (yah I said it a woman showed gender bias against me. People in a group can be just as bad as people outside a group by support stereotypes),  then they are hypocrites.

The only saving grace of this situation is that I received this information in a phone call and big brother is always watching so I may be able to get a transcript or recording of the phone call where the person made a big deal of the gender bias when they think they wouldn't be called on. 

So the overall point of this is that just because people play a game of being leaders in DEI/JEDI, their true colors show when real pressure is on. Calling people out for what they do is not easy, but it is a test of your character. At the end of the day you may be the only one that knows if you failed or not, but you still failed.